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Why a PURE SOUL cannot understand the problem with DARK SKIN…..

I received a call from a dear friend of mine late one night last week.  She was very upset over the Trayvon Martin incident, as was the rest of the world.  I am sad to say, but she caught me off guard! I had not heard what was going on because I had been consumed with Sommababy meetings and so forth…. but it caught my attention for her to be SO irate that I had to look deeper.
You see, my best friend is in an uncomfortable place in life.  She was not raised in a household where hate was taught.  Neither was I.  She never heard racial slurs in her home, but still knew that racial tension existed in our state.  Same with me.  But, what has disrupted her comfort is the fact that she has a God-given conscience and a pure soul. That is the quality that I, first, admired about her when we became instant friends and has always been our common ground over the years.  So, with THAT soul, she cannot process hate or racism well.  It makes no sense to her because her mind and heart are not tailored to accept the things that many of us do, just to conform and “fit in.”
Certainly, the whole world has seen the blockbuster hit, “The Help.”  Well, I am too familiar with that one scene where Charlotte (Skeeter’s mother) has to change personalities and force her longtime maid, Constantine and her daughter out of her house as she is challenged in front of her Caucasian friends.  That, to me, was a perfect example of an “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything” moment in the movie. And to me, that is a very familiar moment to a lot of people, like my dear friend, in our society.  It’s one of those moments when you SEE wrong and you have to make that choice to overlook it or challenge it.  And that, my friends, is a very uncomfortable place for many of us.
So, when my friend called me, I knew right off what was stirring within her and beating her up regarding Trayvon.  It wasn’t the racial aspect of it….it was the human aspect of it.  It wasn’t that a crime had occurred…it was that it was possibly a hate crime that had occurred.  And that is something that a person with a pure soul cannot understand.   They cannot understand slavery any more than they can understand the Holocaust.  A child in Vietnam, America, or Africa is the same to a pure soul.
In the movie, “The Help, ” my heart went out to Charlotte as much as it did Constantine and Rachel.  Why? Because I cannot imagine the inner turmoil one must feel when he or she has to look into the mirror and deal with the man in the mirror while unsure who that person is or has become.  The pause that Charlotte gave showed her inner struggle….the way she had to ease the door closed and struggle with reopening it….the guilt of having to swallow who you are to be who you’re expected to be is a heavy burden to bear.
So, today, I am proud to be part of the elite group of tan-skinned people.  I am also proud to be a part of the “pure soul” people.  I am so proud of my amazing team of fearless girls–TeamSommaBaby!  Because WE do not understand the problem with having tan or brown skin and we are perfectly O.K. being lost in an ocean of people who do.


  1. Mr WordPress April 28, 2012 at 1:49 am · Reply

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